4th blog

The Big 3: Physical, Social, and task attraction
I find myself going through the big 3 everyday. We encounter these every day. When I walk around campus, I catch myself looking at boobs, and butts. I stare at them "not all the time" because I am physically attracted to those kinds of things. I am a man and I need to look sometimes. I like to hang out and smoke weed with my friends. I do this all the time. I’m socially attracted to hang out with the people I like. I like to hang out with my friends because we smoke weed, talk, and whatever friends do. In class, I sit next to an unattractive girl. The teacher says “complete this activity with the student next to you.” By coincidence the unattractive girl is right next to me so I have to work with her. She is looking at me all weird with her eyes. I can sense that she is attracted to me but I’m definitely not too attracted to her. The only relationship I want with her is a task related one. I just want to finish the activity and get out of class.

Now back to the part where I find myself staring at boobs and butts. Eventually this leads me to be sexually attracted to a girl.  If she is acknowledging that I am looking, and she likes it, this just makes me more sexually attracted. I have a girlfriend at the moment so doing this is kind of bad. But we are all attracted to doing the wrong thing. We are selfish. I am just trying to get a fix and fill in that desire. On campus, if this happens I can control myself because of the environmental factors. I’m at school and I need to get to class and I have other stuff to do. I just can’t go around chasing girls all day. They probably have stuff to do also. But, if I was at a bar, drunk, loud music, some girls are looking sexy. I know a couple girls in her group so it is easier for me to approach her. The proximity is not far. This is just more influence on me to get a girl and take her back to the crib. I approach the girl and try to start a conversation. I am putting myself in a position so that something could happen if you know what I mean. Even though I have a girlfriend, if all the environmental factors are right, I could go to bed with a girl and it just so happens, its not my gf. Oops.
But I am aware that I am not the only one that does this. Probably my gf is doing the same thing. We are selfish animals. In a relationship, both partners are selfish. There has to be that balance of selfishness. We both know what can happen at the bars, but that is the balance, and that’s what keeps me from doing such things.

3rd blog

We sometimes tell ourselves something, and often believe it. For example, if Sally keeps calling herself fat, eventually she will convince herself that she is fat. We have self fulfilling prophecies for ourselves. My life sucks, or my job sucks. For lacrosse, I have to perceive myself as a good athlete and a student here on campus. I keep telling myself this, eventually I will be that good athlete/student. This falls right into goal achievement.

In high school I hung out with the “pothead” crowd. I would always be high and never do my work. My first 2 years of high school was a haze because that’s all I smoked. I’ve been doing this since I was 13 so this was all I knew. My goal achievement then was to be a big ass pothead. I saw people smoking weed and rolling blunts as important to me at the time. I had to keep up a social status kind of because that’s who I was at school. This helped me maintain my identity as a “pothead”. Eventually life caught up to me and so did my parents. My lifestyle was represented in my grades. I didn’t do much homework, and I was too high in class to pay attention. My parents are broke, I’m broke, and I hate being broke. So I decided to change my ways and get some work done. On average my gpa my first two years of high school was a mere 2.0. My junior year I got a gpa of 3.8. I received a couple awards for most improved student for the marking period and a couple for most improved in class. I saw myself as a smart, active pothead, not a pothead who is lazy. I figured out that I can still smoke weed and get my work done. I have 2 goal achievements now which is to be a good student, and still be a pothead. I dragged myself into the library at school. I saw people working and doing homework. I didn’t want to be the outcast at the library so I did my work. The better grades I got the better my relationship with my parents got a lot better. This changed my life around. The relationships I had with people got drastically better and started new relationships as well.
Sources:
my life experiences
Close Encounters 2nd edition

3rd blog

We sometimes tell ourselves something, and often believe it. For example, if Sally keeps calling herself fat, eventually she will convince herself that she is fat. We have self fulfilling prophecies for ourselves. My life sucks, or my job sucks. For lacrosse, I have to perceive myself as a good athlete and a student here on campus. I keep telling myself this, eventually I will be that good athlete/student. This falls right into goal achievement.

In high school I hung out with the “pothead” crowd. I would always be high and never do my work. My first 2 years of high school was a haze because that’s all I smoked. I’ve been doing this since I was 13 so this was all I knew. My goal achievement then was to be a big ass pothead. I saw people smoking weed and rolling blunts as important to me at the time. I had to keep up a social status kind of because that’s who I was at school. This helped me maintain my identity as a “pothead”. Eventually life caught up to me and so did my parents. My lifestyle was represented in my grades. I didn’t do much homework, and I was too high in class to pay attention. My parents are broke, I’m broke, and I hate being broke. So I decided to change my ways and get some work done. On average my gpa my first two years of high school was a mere 2.0. My junior year I got a gpa of 3.8. I received a couple awards for most improved student for the marking period and a couple for most improved in class. I saw myself as a smart, active pothead, not a pothead who is lazy. I figured out that I can still smoke weed and get my work done. I have 2 goal achievements now which is to be a good student, and still be a pothead. I dragged myself into the library at school. I saw people working and doing homework. I didn’t want to be the outcast at the library so I did my work. The better grades I got the better my relationship with my parents got a lot better. This changed my life around. The relationships I had with people got drastically better and started new relationships as well.