3rd blog

We sometimes tell ourselves something, and often believe it. For example, if Sally keeps calling herself fat, eventually she will convince herself that she is fat. We have self fulfilling prophecies for ourselves. My life sucks, or my job sucks. For lacrosse, I have to perceive myself as a good athlete and a student here on campus. I keep telling myself this, eventually I will be that good athlete/student. This falls right into goal achievement.

In high school I hung out with the “pothead” crowd. I would always be high and never do my work. My first 2 years of high school was a haze because that’s all I smoked. I’ve been doing this since I was 13 so this was all I knew. My goal achievement then was to be a big ass pothead. I saw people smoking weed and rolling blunts as important to me at the time. I had to keep up a social status kind of because that’s who I was at school. This helped me maintain my identity as a “pothead”. Eventually life caught up to me and so did my parents. My lifestyle was represented in my grades. I didn’t do much homework, and I was too high in class to pay attention. My parents are broke, I’m broke, and I hate being broke. So I decided to change my ways and get some work done. On average my gpa my first two years of high school was a mere 2.0. My junior year I got a gpa of 3.8. I received a couple awards for most improved student for the marking period and a couple for most improved in class. I saw myself as a smart, active pothead, not a pothead who is lazy. I figured out that I can still smoke weed and get my work done. I have 2 goal achievements now which is to be a good student, and still be a pothead. I dragged myself into the library at school. I saw people working and doing homework. I didn’t want to be the outcast at the library so I did my work. The better grades I got the better my relationship with my parents got a lot better. This changed my life around. The relationships I had with people got drastically better and started new relationships as well.
Sources:
my life experiences
Close Encounters 2nd edition